Why Victims Stay in Abusive Relationships

No one should be judged for their decision. But there is help available whether you choose to stay or leave an abusive relationship.

People stay in abusive relationships for many different reasons. It’s never a simple situation. Although everyone is different, here are some common reasons people do not leave abusive relationships:

Emotional reasons:

  • Fear
  • Low self-esteem
  • Experienced abuse as a child and doesn’t know anything else
  • Feel isolated
  • Shame or embarrassment
  • Depression
  • A desire to make it better
  • Guilt
  • Hope and dreams of a certain way of life
  • Children

Economic Reasons:

  • Unemployment
  • Lack of education
  • Home belongs to partner
  • Money controlled by partner
  • Children

Social reasons:

  • Cultural issues
  • Community’s response
  • Isolation from community
  • Lack of information and resources
  • Lack of support from friends, family and/or community
  • Religious beliefs
  • Family beliefs
  • Inadequate response from the police or court system

There is help. You are not alone and it’s okay to talk about it!


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