What is Domestic Violence

Everyone’s expe­ri­ence of domes­tic vio­lence is dif­fer­ent. How­ever, there are some com­mon signs of abuse that you should be aware of. If you answer “yes” to any of these ques­tions, please seek help and remem­ber you’re not alone.

Does your part­ner repeatedly:

  • Embar­rass, insult, humil­i­ate or intim­i­date you?
  • Call or beep you through­out the day?
  • Try to con­trol what you wear, do or say?
  • Try to con­trol what you spend?
  • Blame you for everything?
  • Iso­late you by keep­ing you away from your friends or family?
  • Accuse you of being unfaithful?
  • Dis­play extreme jeal­ousy often?
  • Threaten to hurt you or your children?
  • Force you to have sex?
  • Shove, kick, hit, bite, slap, punch or hurt you?
  • Threaten to com­mit sui­cide if you leave?

How do you feel in this relationship?

  • Feel alone and iso­lated from fam­ily and/or friends?
  • Feel that your part­ner is unhappy, no mat­ter what you do?
  • Feel like your part­ner will change if you change yourself?
  • Feel like you are respon­si­ble for your partner’s behavior?
  • Feel afraid or intim­i­dated by your partner?
  • Feel depressed or worthless?
  • Feel like you can’t do any­thing with­out your partner?

How do you behave in this relationship?

  • Do you ask your part­ner for per­mis­sion to do the sim­plest thing?
  • Do you always do what your part­ner wants to do instead of what you want to do?
  • Do you jus­tify every­thing that you do?
  • Do you blame your­self for every­thing that goes wrong in the relationship?
  • Do you make excuses for your partner’s behavior?
  • Do you stay with your part­ner because you are afraid to break up?
  • Do you try to avoid doing things that may anger your partner?
  • Do you return to your part­ner because it got worse after you left?
  • Do you hide the abuse from friends and family?

There is help. You are not alone and it’s okay to talk about it!

 

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