What is Domestic Violence

Everyone’s experience of domestic violence is different. However, there are some common signs of abuse that you should be aware of. If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, please seek help and remember you’re not alone.

Does your partner repeatedly:

  • Embarrass, insult, humiliate or intimidate you?
  • Call or beep you throughout the day?
  • Try to control what you wear, do or say?
  • Try to control what you spend?
  • Blame you for everything?
  • Isolate you by keeping you away from your friends or family?
  • Accuse you of being unfaithful?
  • Display extreme jealousy often?
  • Threaten to hurt you or your children?
  • Force you to have sex?
  • Shove, kick, hit, bite, slap, punch or hurt you?
  • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

How do you feel in this relationship?

  • Feel alone and isolated from family and/or friends?
  • Feel that your partner is unhappy, no matter what you do?
  • Feel like your partner will change if you change yourself?
  • Feel like you are responsible for your partner’s behavior?
  • Feel afraid or intimidated by your partner?
  • Feel depressed or worthless?
  • Feel like you can’t do anything without your partner?

How do you behave in this relationship?

  • Do you ask your partner for permission to do the simplest thing?
  • Do you always do what your partner wants to do instead of what you want to do?
  • Do you justify everything that you do?
  • Do you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
  • Do you make excuses for your partner’s behavior?
  • Do you stay with your partner because you are afraid to break up?
  • Do you try to avoid doing things that may anger your partner?
  • Do you return to your partner because it got worse after you left?
  • Do you hide the abuse from friends and family?

There is help. You are not alone and it’s okay to talk about it!


Next: Effects of Abuse on Your Children

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