Effects of Abuse on Your Children

Some com­mon emo­tional reactions:

  • Lives in con­stant fear
  • Feels worth­less
  • Is afraid to go home because of the abu­sive adult’s mood swings
  • Con­fused about love. May think that love is abuse
  • Con­tin­ues the cycle of vio­lence because that is what they know
  • Feels iso­lated and alone
  • Feels that it is only hap­pen­ing to them
  • With­draws from friends and family
  • Acts out at school
  • Becomes depressed
  • Feels guilty
  • Is angry
  • Feels help­less
  • Feels that it is his/her fault

Some com­mon phys­i­cal reactions:

  • Tired­ness
  • Stom­achaches
  • Fast-beating heart
  • Ner­vous­ness
  • Headaches
  • Rest­less­ness
  • Dizzi­ness

These feel­ings may con­tinue through adult­hood and are car­ried into close rela­tion­ships. This may cause the cycle of abuse to continue.

There is help for you and your chil­dren.

  • Build fam­ily sup­port, encour­age close­ness with siblings.
  • Find pos­i­tive role mod­els for your chil­dren: a teacher, a rel­a­tive, a friend…
  • Find sup­port in the com­mu­nity, such as men­tor­ing pro­grams and youth activities.
  • Talk to a counselor.

There are ways that you can help your chil­dren when in your home:

There is help, you are not alone and it’s okay to talk about it!


Next: How to Cope

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