Effects of Abuse on Your Children

Some common emotional reactions:

  • Lives in constant fear
  • Feels worthless
  • Is afraid to go home because of the abusive adult’s mood swings
  • Confused about love. May think that love is abuse
  • Continues the cycle of violence because that is what they know
  • Feels isolated and alone
  • Feels that it is only happening to them
  • Withdraws from friends and family
  • Acts out at school
  • Becomes depressed
  • Feels guilty
  • Is angry
  • Feels helpless
  • Feels that it is his/her fault

Some common physical reactions:

  • Tiredness
  • Stomachaches
  • Fast-beating heart
  • Nervousness
  • Headaches
  • Restlessness
  • Dizziness

These feelings may continue through adulthood and are carried into close relationships. This may cause the cycle of abuse to continue.

There is help for you and your children.

  • Build family support, encourage closeness with siblings.
  • Find positive role models for your children: a teacher, a relative, a friend…
  • Find support in the community, such as mentoring programs and youth activities.
  • Talk to a counselor.

There are ways that you can help your children when in your home:

There is help, you are not alone and it’s okay to talk about it!


Next: How to Cope

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